Q: Dear Donnarose, I'm trying to be more non-judgmental, but it's so difficult when so many around me constantly judge. Any suggestions to make this easier? ~Thanks, Carl

A: ~ “Judge nothing, you will be happy." ~Sri Chinmoy

You may be less inclined to join in with the judging group, if you remind yourself of the repercussions.

Many don't realize that even if the people they're judging can't hear them, it's their own bodies that will still be affected by the negative energy attached to their words. And this can accumulate and do a lot of damage to the immune system and cause illness. Also, you may notice that people who judge often, can't seem to get out of that cycle. That's because their vibrational frequency gets so low from the negative energy coming from their words that their actions continue to match their low frequency. And consequently, more damage is done to that person in all sorts of ways. Since you can't run from the building when this judging is occurring, some tactics will have to be used.

Some examples are: After a while, bring a more enjoyable topic into the mix; or, each time the bulk of the judgment dialogue is transpiring, minimize your participation, i.e.; Leave the room, or pull a little further away from the group, check your phone, grab some water, etc. Those who really want to be in your company, will begin to notice your withdrawal pattern, and will alter their behavior. The rest, well, they'll choose to stay busy judging, as you reap the benefits of your efforts.~♥

Q: Dear Donnarose, my mother is 80, has a very mean personality, and treats me horribly. She even gets mad when our father is nice to me. I live there at times to help care for her, but it's getting harder to deal with this treatment. Please help. ~Janice

A: ~ “Those who push your buttons the most are your greatest teachers.” ~Unknown

I can see your mother has a lot of stuck energy which surely helps contribute to this situation. But, you can still lighten the load during your future encounters with her. The thing is, we all have scripts to act out in this Earthly play we're in. In this situation, a part of your mom's script (soul contract), is to be mean. This is to test you until you pass with good grades on your spiritual report card, so to speak. It's the case where the above quote applies. Meaning, since you can't depend on receiving love from your mother, you're being forced to learn to go within to connect to your Higher Self to receive it. But, the good news is that this Inner source of love is consistent and always available. In the interim, the quickest way to peacefully communicate with your mother, is during any encounter with her, visualize your light talking to her light. Meaning, as you approach her, go right past her “mean” statements, visualize her and yourself as a blob of white light (which is your soul- the thing that's making your heart beat right now), and then converse with her. So instead of an ego to ego encounter, this becomes a soul to soul encounter. This almost always has a more positive, if not more rational and peaceful outcome. Asking Spirit to help you both forgive each other and yourselves, is also needed. Try to keep this process simple, and the conversations as short as possible, all while keeping your energy body protected by Archangel Michael. And after some practice, you will definitely start to see the peace increase.~♥
Donnarose Melvin is a professional psychic, medium and energy healer, whose pleasure it is to assist clients worldwide. She incorporates knowledge from her degree in psychology, along with her clairvoyant, clairaudient, clairsentient, claircognizant, and empathic gifts to guide her clients towards peace and success.  Please send your questions to SoulfullyYoursDonnarose@gmail.com or private message her via facebook: Soulfully Yours Donnarose.  She will select questions each month to share with you. Donnarose regrets that unpublished questions cannot be answered individually. If you’d like an intuitive reading, contact Donnarose at the email address above. ~ ♥